Being a Mom is Tough!!! Ha!! Ain’t that the truth!!! I am doing an online bible study and each week a topic is featured and an invitation extended for bloggers to blog and so here I am throwing my hat in, not so much to enlighten anyone — since we all know how tough, trying, treacherous, taxing, traumatizing parenting can be, (I’m pretty dramatic, I know) — but I need some enlightening up in here!
I am mama to my only begotten son, Joshua, 15 (almost 16) and my girl Mariah, 14. I have always anticipated each stage of development, bought the book and waited as they caught up to me. I helicoptered my way through the early years and had a few “special” moments along the way, but all in all nothing too traumatizing, I hope.
And so here we are smack dab in the middle of teenage years and OY!!! I thought I was pretty well prepared and prayed up since my only begotten son has been a joy to parent…well, you know, he’s just like me (insert smirk and a back pat here) — but the problem I’m having is that my girl, bless her precious heart, is a little more of a challenge because…well, you know, she’s just like me (pre-Jesus) — help me Jesus!! She’s a little more argumentative (she calls it debating); a little more headstrong (she says she’s an independent thinker) and a bit stubborn (um…me)!! She took that turn in 6th grade and we’ve been riding this wave ever since — having some good days and some not so good days.
I recently shared with my goddaughter’s mom that in the process of parenting her daughter, she will be healed of some of her struggles. This week the Lord, brought that conversation back to my remembrance and I embraced it. I recognize that to be the case in my relationship with my daughter because the hotter it becomes, the more “my stuff” comes up and I am trying with every bit of my strength not to project. Did I say OY!!! After our last
misunderstanding blow-up I heard myself say “I cannot wait for this ‘season’ to pass…I’d like to fast forward right through it.” I immediately took it back because I realize that if I were to get my “wish” I would fast forward through some amazing times of growth and training with my girl and my only begotten son:)
So here’s what I will do instead….not in my strength, but in His:
I will not project “my stuff” on her as she “heals” me;
I will control less and trust Him more;
I will be quick to listen, slow to speak (a miracle in itself);
I will be open and expect to be stretched (some more)…(did she not absolutely stretch me to my limit during pregnancy?)
I will not take anything she says personally (Jesus take the wheel for real!!)
I will acknowledge that bad moments do not make a bad mom or a bad relationship!
I will remind myself that God chose me to parent my girl!
I am so looking forward to this bible study and all that I will glean from the other warrior mamas. May we all be strengthened, empowered and encouraged knowing that we were called for such a time as this to influence a generation and may our legacy be a lasting one…one that bears fruit that remains.
“He refreshes and restores my life (my self); He leads me in the paths of righteousness (uprightness and right standing with Him – not for my earning it, but) for His name’s sake.” Psalm 23:3