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Toxic People

“My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, nor detest His correction; For whom the Lord loves He corrects.” Proverbs 3:11-12a

I get a kick out of it when the Lord corrects me. Once the rebuke has passed and I’m licking my wounds, I even manage to chuckle at how small I am compared to His greatness…and how bold I can be to think that I can get away with anything when He’s always present and ever checking me!!

I made a decision to distance myself from a situation and today one of the parties reached out to me and after our communication I remained steadfast in my decision. I found myself praying for the situation and those involved and then I began interceding for others and finally for myself, praying that I had heard from Him and was not making emotional decisions. I felt peace and then it was time for me to shower. I again thought of the situation and the word “toxic” came up. I thought of the many times I had heard that term as it relates to people and how wise it was to remove toxic people from one’s life. “Yeah, that’s exactly what I’m dealing with here…toxic people,” I said to myself. I had one foot in the shower when I know it was Him who spoke and how dare I open my mouth and say out loud what He was speaking to my heart. Here’s what I heard come from my mouth…the nerve of me: “If toxic people bring out the toxicity in you wouldn’t that make you toxic too? Don’t you all have work to do?” Thanks Lord…and you’re a poet too? Apparently…He is that. What came next was the realization that perhaps toxic people or difficult situations are allowed in our lives for us to determine how far along we are in our maturing process. They are sent for us to determine just how “there” we are. It would seem that I am not quite there.

I laughed out loud at myself as I envisioned me looking out and wondering why my vision was impaired…oh yeah, it’s that tree that’s imbedded in my eye…getting in the way of my being able to clearly see the speck in yours. Now does this mean, that I’ll reverse my decision to distance myself from that situation I mentioned earlier? I don’t think so, because I know that I know that it’s not a good one for me. I also know that today’s revelation has brought me right back down to my knees and I’m finding myself at His feet where I’m safest, where I’m quiet, where I’m home.

Here’s the last thing I heard as I was rinsing the conditioner from my hair…”Your reaction to a situation paints a picture of the condition of your heart.” Ouch, Hallelujah! — Back to the lab I go!!

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A Word about Joe Paterno….Shhhhh

Daniel in the bible had a sterling reputation.  In Daniel 5:14 Daniel finds himself before the king hearing these words “I have heard of you, that the Spirit of God is in you, and that light and understanding and excellent wisdom are found in you.”  I have made that my personal confession and declare those words to be true for my husband and children.

As we witness Joe Paterno’s memory and legacy take a hit, I’m driven to wonder what the memory will be of my choices, comments, actions, interactions, associations.  How sad that Paterno went to his grave in shame with a host of people shaking their heads and uttering tsk tsk.  He apparently saw and didn’t say and his silence hurt people and devastated him and his legacy.  He compromised his beliefs, most likely…probably not to be a snitch, possibly for professional reasons.  His legacy…all that he built, forgotten in the memory of a secret he kept.  Secrets don’t usually remain a secret.  We have a tendency of sharing our heart (hopefully with someone who will cover, conceal and protect it and guard our secret).  When we share we expose ourselves and take a chance that our secrets may no longer be.  That was not the case with Mr. Paterno.  The secret he should have exposed, exposed him, bit him, hurt him, sent him to the grave probably shaking his head too!  My point is not to throw salt on the wound or judge the situation.  The facts of the case judge him and the participants enough.  I feel for him and his family; for the reputation as a professional he built.  The monument built as a lasting memory of him and his accomplishments will probably be yanked from its foundation…all for a secret.  I especially feel for all of the victims within this secret, for their families and loved ones left with the feelings of “I should have known” “I wish I knew” “If I only knew” and it wouldn’t be fair not to feel for the family and loved ones of the perpetrator.  People tortured, families scarred, reputations ruined, legacies lost…all because of a secret.

Lord, may my reputation, born from the choices that I made, what I stood for, what and who I spoke up for, the company I kept, the decisions I made be so in line with Your Word, Your will, Your plan, Your purpose for me that those who knew me will be able to say without a doubt that, “she lived for Him, with Him and He operated through her”…may it be known and be apparent and may You get every bit of the glory.  May the only secret kept be between us as I share my heart with You and tap into Yours…in Jesus’ name!  I love the Lord…that’s no secret!!

“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my (firm, impenetrable) Rock and my Redeemer.” Psalm 19:14
“Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right, persevering, and steadfast spirit within me.” Psalm 51:10

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